I’m Such a Fan of #WasteHisTime2016
So #WasteHisTime was the first big trending topic of the year on Twitter, and you simply cannot imagine my glee.
Reading through my timeline, I was beaming from ear to ear. Sorry, but I don’t have any pity for guys mad over this trend because men have been putting women through hell since the dawn of humanity, and a concerted effort by women to give men a taste of their own medicine when it comes to love is long overdue.
Text him “come over, no one is home(;” And then when he comes over makes sure nobody is home, not even you. #WasteHisTime2016
— Kaitlyn Porter (@AyeImKP) January 7, 2016
Nigerian men especially, are masters of callously stringing women along, sending mixed signals, getting women to invest time, energy, love, affection, manual labour, and often times money, by blinding their partners in a smoke screen of lies before bringing the whole relationship crashing to the ground just when their victim least suspects it.
Predictably, our darling men were among the loudest voices crying foul as if wasting women’s time isn’t the average Nigerian man’s stock in trade. It’s almost comical how sensitive and fragile men are when it comes to their own emotions, but how readily they find millions of excuses to disregard women’s emotions and do exactly as they selfishly please, always to the detriment of the women they’re involved with.
How many times have we heard of, and seen first hand, Nigerian women who thought they were in steady, serious relationships, only for their boyfriend to send them invitation cards to his wedding (to someone else) out of the blue?
I’ve personally been with guys who acted like they were really into me in the beginning, and then all of a sudden, don’t know where they wanted to take things even though I was giving clear signals about what I wanted or how serious I was about the relationship.
There’s no reason why a grown man in his twenties should answer “I don’t know” to “What are we?” or say rubbish like “I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship or not.” If you don’t know, please get out and don’t come back until you actually know what the fuck you want instead of lying and blowing hot and cold while I’m wasting valuable time, energy, and emotions being with you.
So many guys act like it’s okay to be an asshole by default, and it’s women’s job to jump through all these hoops of trying to deflect their shitty behavior instead of actually making an effort to behave like a decent human being from the start.
Wasn’t it just last week we were discussing a guy that had been dating a girl for 9 years, only to turn around and say that he doesn’t “feel like” marrying her, and he wants to be with someone else? Feel like ni, feel like ko.
— The Wordsmith (@adewus4real) January 4, 2016
These are the kinds of men people do fasting and prayer against, and frankly I don’t blame them, because how do you even start to pick up the pieces after investing nine years of your life in someone?
So, it’s nice to see the tables turned abeg. Maybe if women become more selfish and start treating men the way they treat us, they will finally realize how inconsiderate, and frankly, cruel some of the things they do to women who love them are.
It’s also very telling that when women waste men’s time the way men often do to women, those women are called out as being “hoes” or “not marriage worthy” / “not wife material”. But it’s you that can’t sit still, juggling three women at a time without their knowledge that is supposedly husband material abi? 😒😒😒😒😒
finally allow him to take you on a date then after have him drop you off at your other man’s house #WasteHisTime2016
— cyrene tankard (@cyrenelovette) January 6, 2016
Please, waste more! Tiri gbosa for una! Ride on!