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September Shuffle

Where did this year go?

I can’t believe it’s September already.

I literally just moved to DC in January and it feels like it was yesterday. This has been a pretty rough year for me with a lot of upheaval but also lots of good moments and I’m positive I’ve done so much more growing as a person this year than any of the previous years.

I still can’t believe I’m 25, because I don’t FEEL 25. I feel anywhere between 20 and 23, but not a moment older. That being said, I think I’ve done a lot of “grown-up” things this year, like move to a new country (well not really new) on my own (also not the first time really), and got my first ever apartment. My friend did something similar and made use of Secure Move Services to make sure the whole process went smoothly.

Living on my own has never really been difficult for me, what with moving away for school at eighteen, but this is really the first time in my life that I am truly living a completely independent life and supporting myself entirely as an adult. Living alone can be a really exciting life adventure that you’ll learn a hell of a lot from. If this prospect is intriguing for you, you might want to have a look at some properties on somewhere like Space station in order to find a living space that suits you completely.

I’m still looking for a job, and living off my savings means I’ve had to reign in some of my more extravagant tendencies quite a bit. No more fancy dinners and lunches out, no more expensive makeup and perfume, no more buying shoes, no more shopping period. I’ve had to spend money on my apartment and buy things like blinds and duvet covers instead of clothes! If you need to get some blinds for your apartment, discover shuttercraft shutters to find out more. I’ve had to budget heavily and it’s been pretty tough!

I still haven’t quite hit that magic formula to balance my income with my life but I’m hoping to this month.

Here’s to lots of joy and happiness this month and in the future, and what good things may come.

It’s a big, scary world out there, and sometimes I want to run home with my tail tucked between my legs, back to the comfort of being a Nigerian young adult housed, fed, and supported entirely by long-suffering older family members, but just when I think I can’t do this anymore, I remember my favourite line from the Robin Hood story I read as a child:

Faint Heart never won Fair Lady




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  1. fuzzy

    It will work out sweetie, you are making progress, all that’s left is for it to work out .

    Don’T come to the comfort of home, if what you want isn’t here.

    I regret not standing up for myself when i was made to stay in Nigeria. Now I’m home with all the comforts of supportive parents , i can’t recall being happy for up to month straight.

    Keep fighting and hope

  2. Onyebuchi

    Best of luck to you for the rest of this year! I wish you loads of joy and happiness! You keep on preserving with living on your own…you are a strong, independent woman!

  3. mizchif

    Go you!

    This year has been on steroids for true.
    I admire you so much for taking this big step now at 25. I’m here in Nigeria living the semi supported life and i can’t tell you how stifling it is. I would take a job at the end of the universe just to get away right now, but i’m too chicken to do anything yet. Which is pathetic, so kudos to you.

    In totally unrelated matters, sometimes i see your tweets and i want to tell you to step away from your phone, even though i know it’s not my place to. Also especially since the NHBi/LIB incident and since you are now clearly a person of interest to Linda maybe you might consider toning things down just a tad to minimise some of the hate responses i know you must be getting.
    Just a thought.

    Be well.

  4. Joie

    I remember when I was in your shoes over a decade ago. It is tougher for people like you (us) who are led by the yearnings of their soul. I would advice that you find a ‘safe’ way to shake off the blues when they do come because that can be a very dangerous time. Otherwise this is the perfect opportunity, without distraction,to tune in to, and decipher, those whispers that the Universe seems to be sending your way. I am certain you know what I mean.

  5. Tolu

    I just stumbled upon your blog and I have to say this is one of the best blogs I’ve ever read. You have lived a lot at such a young age. I read your posts on your abusive ex, and he reminded me so much of someone I was very briefly in love with. Lucky for me he moved back to Nigeria, but the pull he had on me could have led me to disaster. I’m so glad you’ve found a way to deal with your past, especially at the hands of your ex. Love does not hurt- no abuse, no rape, no mental torture. You’re young and I pray you find true love.


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