Team Natural

ThirdWorldProfashional put up a post today about natural hair and relaxed hair in Nigeria and her opinions on various matters involved in the whole situation. I left a couple of comments on the post, but I felt it was important that I repost them here.

I think that there is a lot of unwarranted hostility towards natural hair in Nigeria and there is a lot of misinformation being spread around. Even worse, there is the particularly annoying and very dangerous habit that pro-relaxer Nigerians have of downplaying the very serious issues surrounding the self image of Nigerian (and by extension black) women when they compare themselves and are compared to women of other races and the key role that these issues play in steering women towards the decision to relax or to remain natural.

I am tired of hearing Nigerians say “It’s just hair” or quote India Arie and say “I am not my hair”.

You know what?

FUCK India Arie. She wrote a feel good song with a positive message, but you’d have to be drunk off your rocker to believe that bullshit.

Like it or not, you are very much your hair. Your hair does not define the totality of what you are because as a human being you are made up of so many facets but your hair is a very REAL and very legitimate one of those facets and whether you want to hold hands and sit in a circle and daydream till kingdom come, the FACT of the matter is that people in this world DO and WILL judge others based on their hair.

People who relax are very much aware of this and that is why they relax. Because at the end of the day, noone wants to be told they are ugly and people want to feel good about themselves. People who relax KNOW that the way this world has been set up, black people are dehumanised and shit on by EVERYBODY, and everything that reminds anybody of Africans or any aspect of our lives or cultures or existence is demeaned at every opportunity and dismissed or at least deliberately ranked as less than or lower than anything attributed to anyone else and that includes our hair.

So maybe you can go through life with relaxed hair and everyone will smile at you and nod their head and your boss will be happy and you will get promotions but at the end of the day what does it mean? All it means is that you AGREE that you were made defective. You AGREE that you are inferior at least in some way because well, you were given an inferior brand of hair so you have to “Fix” it or at least get it looking as close as possible to the CORRECT type of hair.

It’s not just hair and your decision about your hair doesn’t affect just you. It affects ALL of us. The Indian women and Brazilian women whose hair you are wearing with so much pride, what do you think they think of you? How do you think you look to those women? To those women we are pathetic. We are so desperate to wear THEIR hair on our heads it’s a joke. They can shave it off if they want and sell it to a hair trader, it’s not a big deal, it will grow back, big diff.

It affects all of us, because it’s not even as if any of our rejection of our own bodies is going on in private. It’s happening IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE WORLD and THEY CAN SEE and they laugh at us. Black women are the laughing stock of the whole world because everyone is watching us desperately go to any means to look like anything but what we actually are and it strokes the ego of every non-Black woman that can see because it’s obvious to her that you’re trying to look like her and she’s not trying to look like you.

Sure, we hide it under all sorts of euphemisms or faulty logic or fake science like “relaxed hair is more manageable” or “straight hair is more professional” or “light skin is just cleaner looking” and so on, but NOBODY is fooled.

These things we do are what make people like Satoshi Kanazawa feel like he has the balls to come out and write an article on the Internet titled Why Black Women are Ugly. This is why Nigerian singers like Dare Art Alade, Naeto C, and Dbanj have the guts to ignore the millions of Nigerian women who will support them die with their money and fan worship and populate their videos with white South Africans and Indians. After all are you not the one that told them that Indians are better than you by eschewing your own hair but doling out hard cash for hair that an Indian gave up for free? This is why men have the balls to say things like “Anybody who dates black women is nasty” or “Black girls are gross”. People insult us because we have already insulted ourselves by our actions.

Why won’t somebody open their mouth and trash you when you have already said non-verbally that your hair is trash, and your skin is trash? Why won’t they?

If you want to relax your hair, I am not coming to your house any time soon to come and flog you in the middle of the night with a koboko but please, PLEASE stop this nonsense of “It’s not a big deal” or “It’s just hair” because unless you are blind, deaf, and dumb and live inside Olumo Rock on top of that you will have noticed the way Black women are treated when it comes to beauty in comparison to other women. I am not saying that the people treating us this way are not at fault too or that the American media that seems determined to dominate every corner of the globe with its racist imagery is not at fault too, but I AM saying that WE went outside and plucked the cane that they are using to beat us.

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You can read my comments to TWP on her blog on this post




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  1. Maria

    YES YES YES YES YES!

    I’m tired of being told that naturals are too militant or judgmental of relaxed hair and weaves. I’m tired of hearing bs reasons for relaxing like “more professional”.

    Even if you did not walk into the salon with the conscious thought that “I want to look like a white woman today” you have to realize that that is why the relaxer was INVENTED. It’s so disturbing to see so many women in denial about how they are playing into and extending stereotypes and oppression of black people. Wake up! Read your history.

    How can one say that the hair that grows out of your head is “not for me”??? Great comparison with other physical characteristics that define Blackness (rightly or wrongly). What if brown eyes or dark skin were “not for me”??

  2. LaPenseuse

    I LOVE this post!!!

    People keep saying that natural hair is unmanageable. It will remain unmanageable until we learn how to take care of it. It is weird that we don’t know how to take care of our own hair type. We don’t even make the effort.
    It is quite sad that the highest disapproval of natural hair comes from black people. I was told once by a friend that it is okay to have natural hair if you are mixed and I was like O.o

    What is so wrong with the hair that naturally sprouts from our own heads. Why do we dislike it so much? I hope that we will one day accept ourselves the way we are!

    In the wise words of Femi Kuti, Black man, know yourself!!!

  3. Madame Sting

    I haven’t finished reading but i have to say this, i have relaxed hair. You said people who relax are aware that they will be judged by their hair that’s why they relax….WRONG. You cannot generalize like that because everyone has different motivations. I will never go natural at this point in my life for the simple fact that, i think having natural hair is more high maintenance than having relaxed hair. Unless of course i braid it, which i really don’t like to do.

    Then let’s talk about texture of hair. I’ve always said if i had my mom’s hair which is super soft and actually gets messed up when permed, i would not put a perm in my hair for any reason. My hair is 4b and there’s no way in hell i want to deal with that at this point in my life.

    Bottom line is, i relax my hair for convenience rather than wanting to conform and not have people judge me or whatever you think is the reason people relax their hair.

  4. Prism of an immigrant

    When a black girl bleaches and has booty and breast implants, she’s fake and has low self-esteem or even ashamed of being black. When a girl straightens her hair with potentially harmful chemicals and wears weaves etc, it’s out of convenience. What?

    If we’re going to say someone is fake for having cosmetic surgery that gives Caucasian features, then we should also call ourselves fake when we put on weaves that mimic caucasian hair etc…. #justsaying

  5. Etoile Oye

    Why are we allowing something that should bring us together as a race to drive us apart? All the fanaticism is succeeding in doing is driving people away from the ‘natural community’. Some of the analogues are just ridiculous.

  6. Izzie

    i have natural hair and to me its not that serious. The beauty of being an african with relaxed or natural hair is that i can decide to change up my hair style to a variety of things. Braids, weaves-long and short, darling yaki or Brazilian hair whatever. I can do a weave with afro hair or with straight hair, all that matters is i look good either way. the nigerians living in Nigeria are not being oppressed or being judged for their hair. In fact there are way more important issues that women in Nigeria face for them to start thinking of if relaxing their hair is conforming to anything.
    It may be serious if you live outside Nigeria, but it definitely is not that serious if you do.

  7. Mar

    Yep. Thanks Izzie. I get perms only 2ce a year, and I perm my hair only because I find it makes my 4b hair that more manageable and combable. Sugabelly, I love you, but when I had my hair natural for four years, it was haaard! Breaking combs, taking pain meds to relieve the headeaches, spending hours on end detangling the ends that always winded up breaking off. I like the versatility of having coarse hair because I can do Different styles to it, and I’m proud of that. Relaxed hair (for some people) is more manageable, point blank. I have braided my Hispanic friends unruly curls before, and it was sooo tangly, it took me 4 hrs to just do simple cornrows. And she’s not black. She eventually got a relaxer. White ppl also change their bodies and even hair to suit what they want. They get tans, and butt implants, and even hair extensions now to be more “beautiful” or maybe simply to “change it up”. What I do agree with is that the chemicals are not the safest, which is why I only get them 2ce a year, and if there was a safer alternative, I’d chose it. If I had 2b hair, I’d def not relax it, because itd be more manageable. I do agree that to some ppl its an issue of inferiority, but to others it is simply convenience. When I was natural, I would rock a fro one week, a silky str8 the next, and braids the next month. Love all three equally.

  8. sugabelly

    @Maria: You’re right, it’s not a CONSCIOUS thought, but people still need to be fully aware of the social ramifications behind it.

    @LaPenseuse: Totally agree

    @Sting: I’m aware that everyone has different motivations and like I said to Maria, I don’t think that most relaxed heads get up in the morning thinking “Yes, I am going to get my hair relaxed so that I can support the racist system”

    @Prism: Very true. What so many people with relaxers refuse to admit is that their hair DOES mimic caucasian and Asian hair, and the straight weaves they consistently choose mimic them too.

    @Etoile: I don’t see any fanatics around here. Last time I checked voicing your opinion was not equivalent to being a fanatic. And I did not write this post to proselytize anybody who is relaxed to convert to natural hair. I wrote it to point out the highly problematic nature of the comments that pro-relaxer people often make about natural hair. So, it’s not as if I’m keeping some sort of natural hair conversion quota and I’ll be disappointed when you don’t go natural. At the end of the day it is a CHOICE. And it’s not one that I’m about to make for anybody.

    @leggy: Unfortunately, it IS that deep and it IS a serious matter. I really wish that hair decisions and other identity-based decisions existed in a vacuum but they don’t. What a few people do affects the general opinion of all of us. And negative pressure and antagonism from relaxed heads has to stop.

    @Izzie: Nigerians who live in Nigeria ARE being oppressed for their hair. As long as a Nigerian has natural hair in Nigeria they wake up every day to insults, negative comments, and snide remarks from everybody from their family to coworkers to strangers in the street.

    Look at LITK’s recent experiences from her trip to Nigeria. And for her one story there are thousands of similar experiences from Nigerian naturals that go unheard. So yes, it IS a big deal.

    @WhatIthink and Mz T: Thanks!

    @Mar: I agree with you, the first few years of being natural ARE hard. I will not and cannot lie. This is because there is so much that you have to learn. And this is also because you have to UNLEARN all the bad hair practices that Nigerian children learn in their homes and at school. It takes a while to get to the point where you completely understand your hair. I’m not even there yet but I will never give up because this is the hair I was made with.

    And so because white people change their bodies does that mean we should too? So because they jumped into fire, we should follow too abi? And white people do NOT get tans to look black. They get tans to look RICH.

    Tans in the winter time imply that instead of being stuck in whatever snowy place you live, you can afford to go on holiday in a tropical country.

    And as for butt implants, even when white women get butt implants, who do you think wins? They do!

    Who is the “face” of big asses everywhere? It’s not Black women who are the original people with big butts. It’s Kim Kardashian and Jennifer Lopez, (an Armenian and a Latina) two people who couldn’t look whiter if they tried.

    NOBODY is praising the big butts of Black women, but EVERYBODY is praising big butts when WHITE women have them or ANY woman as long as she is not Black.

    What does that tell you? We can’t even get credit for our own features.

    People who say Black women are ugly say we have thick lips, we have big asses, we have wide hips and big breasts and high cheekbones, etc and it’s horrible, but those same people think that Angelina Jolie (thick lips), Kim Kardashian (big ass), Scarlet Johanssen (high cheekbones and curves/wide hips) are beautiful.

  9. eccentricyoruba

    @Izzie,

    Sugabelly has already said it but I feel the need to add my own. As a Nigerian with natural hair, currently living in Nigeria I say YES, I have been judged and treated negatively because of my natural hair.

    Comment are bloody offensive and come from the mouths of not only family but random strangers on the street. I know there are some naturals here that do just fine but those of use who experience the discrimination should not be ignored.

    I’ve been called irrational, dirty, wild, crazy, ‘jaga jaga’, you name it, all because I do not relaxe my hair. Imagine that. In Nigeria, where natural hair should not be so much a novelty, men approach like I’m some sort of ‘exotic’ being simple due to my unrelaxed hair. Does that even make sense for a guy to use ‘your hair is crazy’ as a pick up line.

    People screw up their faces at my hair, they tell me to comb it, relax it whatever completely ignoring the fact that it is nobody’s damn business what I decide to do to my hair. I’ve been told that I can’t be Nigerian, simply because of my hair. That I’m a fine girl…except ‘this your kind of hair’.

    Really unless you’re natural in Nigeria, you have no right to make such tall claims.

  10. The Corner Shop

    I think stuff like hair, makeup, and outfits say a lot lot about who we are. But then again, i won’t go as far as thinking people with relaxed hair are pretending to be something they’re not. For example, I’ve got relaxed hair, but i wouldn’t want to be anything other than Nigerian.

    Anyway, I’ve never thought this was such a deep thing really- it’s not that serious and i don’t see why there should be any argument about natural or relaxed.

    Adiya
    http://thecornershopng.blogspot.com

  11. ego

    i think what irks me is this we against them mentality. To be honest, some of us are not that bothered. If you feel vilified because you wear your hair natural then fight for your rights. It is not up to other black women to embrace natural hair to prove they are proud to be black. Our blackness is as a result of our skin tone. Stop exposing ur insecurities please. There are many women who wear their hair natural and don’t feel any ‘blacker’ as a result. Infact they are more oyinboish than black.
    Sugabelly, if you are that proud of your natural hair, stop wearing fake extension which you call braids. I am tired of this nonsense, and i believe it is ur stay in America that has messed your head up. It is really not that deep. We can all shave our heads regardless of ones race and we will still be able to identify wih our race. So brazilian hair does not make you less blac okay? And there is nothing wrong in changing hair styles, there is nothing wrong in preferring a particular hair type over yours. The world has goe plastic… i bet you will be one of those who will look down on women who opt for epidural instead of natural birth. The world is advancing, technology is advancing and perhaps some black women want long flowy luscious locks as opposed to their kinky curly hair, big deal? enjoy wearing ur ‘natural’ hair/braids and let others enjoy their weave/relaxed hair abi. I bet Oprah and Michelle Obama want to be white and cannot be identified as strong black women because their hair is straightened. Your hair does not make you proud to be black, it is your aattitude, and judging from all this noise you are making, i think you are the one struggling to accept your blackness. We are not in a competition with other races and i believe they’ll feel flattered that we want their hair as opposed to laughing at us – imitation is the best form of flattery. I don’t black women laugh at other races who have butt implants, tan their skin or inject their lips… or do you?

  12. sugabelly

    @Ego: Did you read this post at all?

    Nowhere did I say that natural hair makes you more black than anybody.

    Obviously, you are the one who has insecurities about being viewed as not black enough because you straighten your hair or wear a weave.

    I absolutely NEVER said that natural hair had anything to do with getting in touch with your African side or being black.

    I said that natural hair is about accepting YOUR OWN HAIR. End of story.

    I don’t know where you are getting all these “deeper meanings” from but it definitely isn’t the post that I wrote.

    So please do not project your OWN issues with black identity onto the post I wrote.

  13. Obi-talker

    sugabelly, you have done it again. you killed this piece there is nothing left so say. however I am commmenting on the way you brought out your veiws, some of it is extreme though and even as I am writing I am still wondering if I agree with all aspects you expressed however you wrote and said it like very few black bloggers would have the guts to admit it and I guess this is what makes you stand out as a blogger.

    thsi past weekend my cousin and I got into a very deep discussion about natural hair as a result of what you expressed in this post. after our heated discussion (which wasnt too much of a fight as we are both natural) she is more towards your points than me. I started going natural because I love the way natural hair looks and feels on black ladies than weave especially weave. I dont have anything against people who do weave or relax but as for me when I like something I go for it. my hair feels so much better that I kept asking myself why I was ever relaxing in the first place.

    …also I like it when you do topics like this it keeps people thinking about their identity and I like that a writer can provoke me to do this.

    now am off to read what others have to say about your post…

  14. Beautiful

    Lol…seriously, all this for hair kwa? I have relaxed hair and it doesn’t have to do with being accepted in the society. I relax my hair cos I love how it feels chikena!

    As for Nigerians with natural hair being judged. Before I left Nigeria for the UK, EVERY SINGLE nigerian with natural hair that I knew in my life, EVERY SINGLE one of them had natural hair because they were members of Deeper life or MFM. They didn’t have it because they personally wanted to have it. As a result of the fact that it was not really an inborn decision to have it, EVERY SINGLE one of them NEVER took care of their hair. Their hair was always SMELLY! I’m serious o, no kidding! And you know that natural hair looks bulky on its own, imagine not now combing it and looking like a mad woman on the street! Like seriously???? tell me how people won’t insult them for having natural hair when they won’t take care of it. If you can’t maintain it then don’t do it!

    I have seen pictures of nigerian girls with natural hair on several blogs, well taken care of, well accessorized, looking good and I go WOW!

    If nigerians with natural hair can learn to take care of it and look nice in it, then they wouldn’t be jabbed at.

  15. Temite

    You are right. However, I never try to make moral arguments or aesthetic arguments because its dangerous. I think most women will choose to be their natural self once they self actualize and we can’t force them to.

    But on Natural hair, the economic argument and the health argument have not been made strongly enough. It just can’t be helping your skull to douse it with acids and poisons regularly. Something will go wrong one day and it will just be a damn shame. You are pretty much burning your scalp with ACID. The health of black women is obviously not a priority for research community and this has not been studied as fully as it should. But its quite obvious that the scalp is not stone or made from plastic. Black women have to be VERY careful.

    Also, economically, that stuff is just expensive and I can’t be bothered.

    For me, as a health professional it is VERY serious. I don’t mind weave though but I say NO NO to relaxers. Relaxers are simply hair poison.

  16. Natural Nigerian

    Wow! Can we say that you are really passionate about the subject? Lol!

    Seriously though, I agree with a lot of your points. I may not have stated them as strongly, but I do agree. We need to look beyond our I-relax-my-hair-because-it-is-convenient, dig deep and find the reason why we are telling others and ourselves that it is not okay to be US. We are also telling our children the same thing without the use of words.

    Like Eccentric Yoruba, the bashing I get from fellow Nigerians is phenomenal and could make a grown woman cry. I can deal with people wanting to relax their hair for whatever reason they choose. But somehow they can’t seem to deal with me being natural.

    Good post. Good post. Well said. Very very well said.

  17. Marin

    I agree with a lot of your points, although you have stated them in a, ahem, sugarbelly way, lol.

    Seriously though, what irks me the most is people putting relaxers in the hair of babies. At least in my generation, our natural hair was kept until most people were in their teens. Last time I was in Nigeria I was appalled at the fact that these very educated women were not thinking about the repercussions of applying such toxic chemicals not only to your scalp, but to your 1, 2, 3 year olds scalp. Ramifications which are not fully known as our issues are not important enough to have been the subject of rigorous research as it would have been had the topic here been white womens hair.

    I am natural, and I have to say that it is a learning curve making it look ‘nice’. It means starting to learn from scratch. And its a pity that as a Nigerian, born and bred in Nigeria, the most populated black nation, we don’t know how to take care of the hair growing out of our heads without the aid of unduly expensive, potentially harmful chemicals.

    Either way, I can’t blame nyone, afterall until I discovered healthy haircare via hair forums and youtube, I often admired lush healthy natural hair and said it was a pity I could not go natural as my hair is ‘stubborn’. Now I know how to take proper care of my hair, I am always being told – ‘its because your hair is so soft thats why you can manage it as a natural’. Very funny.

  18. peaches & coconuts

    I know I’m late to the party. Don’t worry, I brought more good liquor…giggles!

    I have shaved my hair off four times in the last eleven years as well as gradually cut off the relaxed ends whilst I grow out my roots. I love natural hair. Tis simply gorgeous. But I can’t (so far) seem to keep it not coz of maintenance & ease of control (d lack of it, that is) but coz genetics don’t favor me. I’ll explain. Me momma, her momma & I bet d gazillions of mommas b4 her have a ‘bald’ patch on d left side of their temple that’s impossible 2 mask wif natural hair. It just sticks out! Relaxing d hair masks it somewhat. I truly do covet d fro. I rarely wear weaves. Me no like d ‘fake’ look be it brazilian or whatever. ‘We know that aint ur hair girl!’ Plus, spending hours on end tryna get braids in aint me forte neither. I tend 2 put in extensions once or twice a year (pocket-holed winter, NYSC orientation camp etc). I take good care of my hair (within budget) & try to be as versatile with it as possible. I put in a relaxer twice a year & a texturizer twice max. I guess I’m choosing appearance over health…coz that chemical’s still harmful ish.
    It really irks me when you aint never seen a girl’s hair coz its ALWAYS in braids, weaves or buried under a scarf (read: bad-hair-days). It IS colonial mentality. U were on point wif your argument. My hair aint completely me but tis definitely an extension of me and that in itself says a lot.

  19. peaches & coconuts

    I know I’m late to the party. Don’t worry, I brought more good liquor…giggles!

    I have shaved my hair off four times in the last eleven years as well as gradually cut off the relaxed ends whilst I grow out my roots. I love natural hair. Tis simply gorgeous. But I can’t (so far) seem to keep it not coz of maintenance & ease of control (d lack of it, that is) but coz genetics don’t favor me. I’ll explain. Me momma, her momma & I bet d gazillions of mommas b4 her have a ‘bald’ patch on d left side of their temple that’s impossible 2 mask wif natural hair. It just sticks out! Relaxing d hair masks it somewhat. I truly do covet d fro. I rarely wear weaves. Me no like d ‘fake’ look be it brazilian or whatever. ‘We know that aint ur hair girl!’ Plus, spending hours on end tryna get braids in aint me forte neither. I tend 2 put in extensions once or twice a year (pocket-holed winter, NYSC orientation camp etc). I take good care of my hair (within budget) & try to be as versatile with it as possible. I put in a relaxer twice a year & a texturizer twice max. I guess I’m choosing appearance over health…coz that chemical’s still harmful ish.
    It really irks me when you aint never seen a girl’s hair coz its ALWAYS in braids, weaves or buried under a scarf (read: bad-hair-days). It IS colonial mentality. U were on point wif your argument. My hair aint completely me but tis definitely an extension of me and that in itself says a lot.

  20. Chizy K

    no doubt your hair is one of the many things that says a lot about a lady, but then again, i would support the fact that it is not as much a big deal, “it is just hair” EXCEPT Africans and Nigerians ditch the westernized clothing and stick to 100% African clothes to prevent racism and books like “why black women are ugly” then and only then would i support your point. by the way i mean 100% African n not a mix of both

    Check out my blog http://www.chizys-spyware.blogspot.com

  21. Chin

    My mother has five girls, all with long thick her like hers. When we were younger she tried to keep us all natural. I’m the third, and by the time my younger sister was born, it got exhausting. We cried when our hair was braided by outsiders because it hurt, and we would go to sleep with headaches. So one day we begged her to relax it since she couldn’t braid it herself all the time. As a mother of seven kids all together, and an Economist working at a bank, she would have loved to keep the four of us natural, but she didn’t have time. And we constantly complained. So one day, she did relax our hair.

    I’ve always had great hair, so when it was natural it was long and healthy, and when it was relaxed it was the same. When I turned sixteen I decided on my own to stop with the relaxers. At the time my baby sister, the fifth girl, was two years old, I’ve never allowed relaxers to touch her hair. But this is because she has four older sisters who all find time to take care of it.

    All my sisters have gone natural now, one even has dreadlocks. The one with dreads had the thickest hair of the five of us, and so decided to lock it. I’m in my twenties now, and my hair is still natural and healthy.

    Yes, I agree at some point relaxing hair was a means of conformity, however times have changed. Just like women wearing pants, or mini-skirts, or showing their ankles, all meant something or carried heavy weight at various points in time, now it really all boils down to choice. I’ve never received any insults or felt any negativity concerning my hair, relaxed or natural. And I have three friends who’ve gone natural because they like the way my hair looks and I promised to show them how to maintain it.

    The only reason I frown on relaxers is that they are unhealthy, really, they change the natural chemical structure of your hair and sometimes burn the scalp. This is why I would never recommend them. But aside from that, I cannot judge a person because of the personal beauty choices they make. After all, most Nigerians living abroad and at home do not wear traditional clothes to school or work on the daily, yet western clothing is not our culture. We speak with accented tones, yet English is not our real language. We use L’oreal make-up when that’s not our real beauty formula. Some of us use blush on the regular, when black girls don’t blush. There are so many other examples of ‘conformity’, when the reality is, it really boils down to personal choices and strength of character.

    Plus the world is a global community, and if the Burberry Prorsum Resort 2012 collection featured African print attires, then I think its okay to borrow from other cultures. We all borrow different styles and ways of life everyday from different cultures. I would just advice not to put your health at risk in the name of beauty, and to properly research whatever beauty regimen you choose to adopt, in order to stay safe and healthy.

  22. Anonymous

    ok i have just realized you have deep issues….and i think your very insecure! sweetheart u want to embrace being african? good! stop wearing make up! start wearing only ur african attires….!
    why the hell do you feel the need to tell people what to wear on their head? does your hair define who you are? if you really think so then your more stupid than i thought! team natural my ass! take your ass back to africa, eat ur african food, go to the stream and fetch water, kneel when you greet your elders! when ur done with that, come here and tell us how to embrace being african! fuck india arie cos SHE doesn’t think she’s her hair…..well FUCK YOU TOO for thinking you’re your hair! foolish child!

  23. ChiChi of Africa

    I just want to say that afo suga, there’s no better way to explain this. Judging from the previous comments, its obvious that a lot of your readers are in denial. They’re ignorant and they are fiercely protecting their ignorance either because they are ashamed of their self-hatred or because they are suffering from a bruised ego. You did not spare the rod and I think they are feeling defensive. Kind of like in Naija when a guy is disturbing you and you ignore him so he gets angry and calls you ugly 0_0. Third world professionals post broke my heart and I couldn’t even go on reading her blog. Some of the comments here are so ignorant and foolish, I’m just tired. The fly that refuses to listen will follow the corpse into the grave.

  24. Miss Fizzy

    I know this post is old but i felt compelled to comment on one thing… Sugabelly never insults anyone in her posts yet people feel the need to come and leave direct insults. If you don’t like what she says or how she says it, fair enough. Say that. Don’t call her stupid or whatever else you have. It’s just so uncouth. Sugabelly, I respect you for always being bold enough to stand up for what you believe in and never cowering in the face of insults and disparaging comments. You’re a pretty amazing human being.

    I’m about to write a post (a lil late I know) inspired by all this drama and from the perspective of a natural haired girl in Nigeria. Do check it out if you can.

    Fizz

  25. amber g

    nice post. really lovely but it would have been better if you just explained how to do just that,i mean told them what to do to their hair so it becomes what they can be proud of too. ignorance is dangerous and thats obviously what murdeeing blacks. so please pay no heed to their ignorance just remember black is B-E-A-Utiful.


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